Just he and I and all of them....

Just he and I and all of them...

Friday, August 19, 2011

Day 9, Someone who drifted away...

Someone who drifted away. This one is easy. I met Julie when she answered an add I had out to babysit. She showed up to my house with this adorable but filthy dirty little girl. She had just picked her up from her current sitter and she hadn't had her diaper changed or her face washed for the entire day. So sad :( Well we hit it off and I started babysitting Cassie the very next day! Julie quickly became my best friend and Cassie became one of my kids than Julie had another daughter. I adored them all. Julie and I went through so much together, its crazy to think back on it. I helped her to leave her abusive ex-husband. Then a few years later she opened her home to me while I was going through my divorce. She was and still is the funniest person I have ever met, she has a very quick wit! There were days that my stomach muscles hurt so bad from the laughing the night before. After awhile we both got remarried. She ended up leaving her second husband though, again an abuser. One day I called her and she didn't answer. I kept calling and calling, still no answer. I went to her apartment and she was gone. I was worried, angry and stressed. I had no idea what had happened to her. I felt so betrayed. I felt like I was the most stable thing in her life and she abandoned me. Around Christmas time that year I got a letter, it was one of those general family letters that basically just says we had a great year everyone is wonderful, you know, one of those letters. So at least I knew they were alive and okay. So about two years later I am in one of my bosses office at work and I came walking out and there sitting at my dest was Julie, Cassie and Kami. I literally nearly fainted. I started crying and trembling. I honestly don't know if I was happy or mad. If I wanted to hug her or hit her. When I asked her where she went, she said she took her girls and ran to get away from her abusive first ex-husband. She ran to Alaska!! She said she didn't tell me because she didn't want me to have to lie to him or the police if they questioned me. Her reasoning didn't change the way I felt. I still felt so betrayed. She now lives in New Hampshire and I don't talk much to her. I am over the hurt and I still love her and adore her girls, especially Cassie, I practically raised her for 9 years, but our friendship really isn't the same and never will be. I have never had another friend that close and honestly I think it is because I was so hurt by Julie that I don't completely trust that something like this wouldn't happen again.

Until later,
Hugs,
Shelly

1 comment:

Beverly @ The Buzz said...

What a story! I can certainly understand your hurt and feeling betrayed, but maybe she felt like she had no other choice and truly was trying to protect you. Regardless, it sounds like each of you lost a wonderful friend.